If he's UNCONSCIOUS... He can't marry you!

People say it different ways. It usually starts out like this: “All my friends are married, I am also ready to get married ” And then they finish it with… My biological clock is ticking. Some say, maybe I need to go out more, need to go to the gym and lose some weight in order to attract the one...

But for some getting married seems to be so easy and... have already been married over three times, but some of you are still believing God for your one husband... sometimes you are even tempted to envy such women. I think you SHOULD not...

And of course…

There is nothing in wanting to get married, but it has to be with the right one. There are Plenty of women out there who are single and very happy. But if you really want to be paired up, you have to be prepared to do something totally different, something pretty drastic... drastic could mean making your prayer life a priority.

The bible says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.”---Proverbs 18:22 True a man has to pursue, but it looks like the entire courtship movement is only based on this one verse. This frustrating, sometimes depressing, crazy dating game has left many singles completely confused and hopeless.

But the truth is:

Genesis 2:22 says, The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and BROUGHT her to the man. Read that again, God brought Eve to Adam. See where the secret is hidden? So it's God who can cause you to be in a particular position in order for Adam to even SEE you... Adam didn't bring Eve to himself. GOD DID. No where in the bible does it say that Adam then asked God to make him a mate. It was God himself first decided that it was not good for man to be alone and therefore purposed in his mind to make a helper who was RIGHT (not good, not with big hips, not skinny, not light in complexion, but RIGHT) for Adam... and then God put him to sleep... a very deep sleep (Gen 2:21) and removed one of his ribs. Now, did you catch in the Scriptures that it never says which rib God took. The reason why divorce is even so common in churches these days is because most people have settled for “good” rather than right (God's perfect will)

Ok... I believe that we serve a God of order (I Corinthians 14:40) and so he gives a man Purpose, first... then God will decide it's not good for him to be alone, second... and man may start to take note of the fact that something doesn't seem quite right in his life, third...

But you know what? I also believe that there is also a season when God puts him to sleep... has him in an unconscious state so that he is not focused on what God is doing in the spirit realm. (Some of you all are wondering why brother so and so doesn't want to pursue you and guess what? He's actually asleep!) When someone is not conscious, it doesn't matter how fine, how sweet, how many cupcakes you bake for him, how saved you are. He doesn't see you, honey. He's knocked out. He's on a spiritual sedative that God prescribed for him.

But, because we are looking at this from a flesh and not spirit perspective (Galatians 5:16-17), it's so easy to miss that because he is “unconscious” to what God is doing, that doesn't mean that God isn't doing something. Right now, I believe that God has taken some ribs out of most men. However, most women are so busy looking at things in the physical realm... walking by sight rather than faith (the exact opposite of what you are supposed to be doing---2 Corinthians 5:7), that's why you are not seeing a lot of action for what men really are. In other words, some men's emotional states seem out of this world... they seem to be lacking a level of spirit and courage that women desire, but it's not because it's not there... it's because they are vulnerable right now... they have a rib missing.

What God has just revealed to some of you is that you have been focused on the wrong things. An “unconscious man” who has nothing to do with you. What can he do? HE'S UNCONSCIOUS. So never ever get angry with someone with a broken bone because something is missing. Of course they wouldn't be acting like they are in perfect condition until the bone has healed. In the spiritual sense, they are a lot of these men out there who are not really bad, they are just ribless... my prayer is that they remain in God's will so that he can finish the “surgical procedure” of creating their companions (because you know most people always try to fight going under anesthesia!) and bringing their wives to them.

So if “he” doesn't see you yet, it's because God still has some work to do on him... and that when it is time, I will know... I will be brought to him. Then my “Adam” will know it and praise God for it, recognizing that I fill a part of him, that's been missing... a place where he needs solid support... something he may not have even realized until he comes to a spiritually conscious state.

Ladies, this is not a time to “hate” on some of these brothers. Let's love on them... What does I Corinthians 2:14 says? “But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.”

Marriage is a spiritual union. It is spiritually discerned. If you want to get a greater insight, get out of the physical (that would include your senses) and into the spirit realm. Don't worry about your Adam. You just concern yourself with getting ready for him.

So that when you are brought to him... when he sees you, you will be worthy of the praise. You will be just what he needs---the covering of the place where his rib, whatever and wherever that rib may be, was taken.

You will be just what THE DOCTOR (of all doctors) ordered to restore him to complete spiritual health.

Our job is to fix a broken man? No. Not even close hun. God was the One who put Adam to sleep and I believe that "only God can wake him up" (Genesis 2:18-25)... and it's that way for a specific reason... and purpose. When the man is ready, The Lord will prepare him. And then... When a man is prepared, his wife will appear.

Let me also say this: When a man is ready to receive his wife, he will tell her that he knows who she is when she appears... because God will tell him so. Oh yes! Godly preparation does that for a man. Just as God did with Adam. So ladies, if you desire to be married, why are you holding on to men who, by looking at the tree (Matthew 12:33)by evaluating his character, sexual/dating habits that he's not ready?

If you are wife material, hun wives don't "date" the bible doesn't say he who finds a girlfriend (Prov 18:22) So here is what you need to say next time... "I am going to tell you up front the kind of relationship I am looking for. I can be your friend. But either are we going to stay platonic friends, if there is a "mutual attraction", we can explore the option of being more. But I am not looking to be someone's girlfriend. I am waiting on the Lord to bring me to my husband. I am sorry there is no middle ground for me. If you are not fine with that... that's fine. I am good, I will not settle."

This week, my prayer is that you put your focus on your Creator God rather than his creation. Check out Romans 1 to see what happens to a lot of people when they do otherwise. My sisters, lusting after a husband is not godly. Love is patient (I Corinthians 13:4)