Say No to dating Married Men!

You are an expensive Pearl and you deserve a SINGLE man.

First of all dating unavailable men is not only a waste of time, but it's simply being unfair to yourself. ..if he is married then he is obviously taken. But the question is...why do women do it anyway? Is it because some feel it's better than nothing or is it about the secret hotel rendezvous...the fun and the excitement of hiding? I don't get it..I mean what is it? Perhaps it's the hope that one day he will leave his wife...well, who knows...But If you ever find yourself on the brink of temptation, look at these 7 truths before you leap:

1. You will Always be second

In the beginning it might be a lot of fun, but in the end, you will always be crying and complaining to your girlfriends and wishing his wife would die...because no matter how much he claims you are his true love, at the end of the day, his wife and kids will always come first. He may even say things like I have never felt this way before and I can see spending the rest of my life with you... this line could sound like a commitment to a future with you. But It's a Lie!!! Don't confuse his loving the way you make him feel with his leaving his wife and making a commitment to you... even if he leaves his wife, how do you know he will actually marry you. You are a Proverbs 3:15 woman! Your life should never be on the edge over a man.

2. It's Wrong

A wedding ring clear says I am out of bounds...simply honor that and search else and no matter how much you try to justify dating a married a man...there are no justifications when it comes to dating a married person. It is considered to be 'ethically wrong' and a share waste of time and dating a married man is simply attracting a curse in your life in so many ways...every time that woman shades tears the more blessings you are subtracting from your own life... God Himself says it's wrong Matt 19:6. Either a man is single...available and in love with you or have nothing to do with him romantically. You are not desperate for a man are you? I hope not!

3. Lies You will always be lied to... Men who have a wife and children at home, will lie to you endlessly for not being able to meet up with you, or not being able to accompany you to a business party, church etc. Again, whatever he says, he won't leave his wife.

4. Hiding is exhausting

Why would you sign up for a relationship where you have to hide from people consistently? Keeping your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship. Walking together freely and radiantly through the world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to be with you. Isn't that what you want? I hope so...

5. Sorry, but you are being used

You are being use! Yes I said that...and why in the world would you allow someone to use you as a stress reliever from his bad marriage or day to day life. He’s not invested in you. He invested in his children and his wife. I know what you’re saying, but we love each other. ..really? Well, you are not a therapist, let this man pay a therapist if he has issues with his marriage.

6. You are not a home wrecker

Like it or not, you are a willing participant in a man violating his vows and betraying the trust of his wife ...not to mention grossly disappointing his children and making it difficult for them to see him as a role model.

7. Time is too precious to waste.

Ever notice how quickly the years go as you get older? Because it's convenient and comfortable, a relationship with a married man can go on for a long time...and before you know it, eat up the precious time you might have had in a healthy relationship with a single man. Wise up! You are in a dead-end affair.

Conclusion

If you are involved with a married man...please get out of that relationship as soon as possible. If he is unhappy in his marriage tell him that you are not a therapist...wish him well and let him go. You may be saying, but he is on separation, separation is the same as married. Let him get divorced officially then he can talk to you and give him space to heal...otherwise you will be another victim... a wife with a cheating husband.