10 Dating Tips for Men!
10 Dating Tips for Men!
1. First impressions
Being a bad boy may seem cool and your ripped jeans may be fashionable, but remember, this will be the first impression your date gets of you. Yes, you should never pretend to being someone that you’re not, but a girl likes to see that you take pride in your appearance! But, this doesn’t mean you need to wear a suit and a tie or a ball tie, but having a shower, shave, using aftershave and putting on something smart (something simple for the date), will put a smile on her face...pay attention to your belt, shoes and your breath too...Oops! Did I say that? Yes I did...bad breath can run a sister off. Oh yes! Make sure you are time!
2. Make date plans for somewhere you'll feel comfortable
You might think that you’re being a gentleman by letting your date decide where you go on your date, but women sometimes they may choose an expensive restaurant that you can't afford. Women love surprises too! So take advantage of that, but please don't go for the cheapest restaurant in town. If you are low on cash go to the park and have a picnic...it's better. But please avoid taking your date to the Tavern, movies or your usual Saturday night club.
3. Be confident
You may be shy...but being confident (but not overly confident) is important to women when it comes to choosing a man. If you consider yourself shy, practice or attend my confidence class. You don't have to be over 6ft tall with a 6-pack to be confident...but it’s more attractive to a woman to show that you are comfortable with yourself and you are happy being you!
4. Don't do all the talking
On your date, make sure you don’t do all the talking. Try to keep what you have to say short and concise. You don’t want to start boring your date! If this date goes well, there will be lots more opportunities to share your stories in the future. Don’t be scared of pauses and help mix up the conversation by asking your date questions. Listening is important, as it shows that you are interested in her, rather than just hearing yourself speak all evening.
5. Keep the conversation fun
Try to keep your conversation light hearted. On your first date, you don’t want to get into an in-depth conversation about why you don’t enjoy your job, or other issues you’ve been having. Women want a guy who can make them laugh. Yes you do have to be serious sometimes, but in the early stages of dating, have some fun!
6. Avoid the 'ex' conversation
Please avoid talking about your ex...it is a dangerous territory. It’s best to stay away from the conversation altogether. Your date will not be interested and it can make things feel awkward between you. If your date does bring up the subject, try to keep answers short (without appearing suspicious)! Reassure her that your past is history and that you want to spend your time getting to know her instead.
7. Turn off your phone
There’s nothing more annoying than phones ringing whilst trying to spend quality time out with friends, but it’s a BIG no no whilst on a date. Don’t just put it on silent or vibrate, as you can still become distracted. Turn your phone off completely. Plus, if she knows that you’ve turned your phone off to focus entirely on the date, this will definitely work in your favor.
8. Offer to pay
This is a must do...things have shifted and most women will assume that they are paying for their share of the bill. On your first date, insist on treating her (although don’t be forceful). This will make you look like a gentleman. But, if she still wants to pay, suggest she gets the bill on your next date, if she wishes.
9. Follow up correctly
If you don’t want a second date, don’t say you will call her. Everyone will just end up feeling bad and getting hurt. Just say, “I had a great time tonight”. If you do want to see her again, don’t play games. Yes, in films they always leave it a couple of days to contact each other, but this is 2014. If you don’t contact her within a couple of days, you will seem like you couldn’t be bothered, or didn’t enjoy the date. The sooner you tell her what a great time you had, the better.
10. Get feedback from a female friend
Dating is one of those things that we don’t learn at school, we simply have to jump in the deep end and see how it goes. But, if you’re looking to IMPROVE your dating skills, why not talk to a female friend. Discuss your last date, where you went, what you did and what you talked about. Everyone has different opinions, but it can help to give you some useful feedback on how to be better on your next date.
