The Problem with men is.......
Never begin your sentences like that if you are married ... learn to bless your husband. Remember, there is power in the tongue the words we speak are not just simple words, they have the power to create. So stop having those husbands bashing conversations with your girlfriends. Instead, start speaking blessings over your marriage and change the direction of your marriage. Look for reasons to bless and celebrate your husband... though male bashing may be common among your friends, be the first one to stop it. Bring an atmosphere of love if there is hate in your marriage by speaking the word... I mean the word of God not just any other word. No matter how bad your marriage is, when you begin speaking blessings over your life. No weapon formed or being formed against you shall prosper. Remember, this is your marriage you have to do something about it... if you want to stay married. This is not entertainment, it's a moment for you to change from inside out. Married women, enough for today...let me get back to my single ladies. But you are welcome to join the Proverbs 3:15 women on the move...
Single ladies, dating is like slow dancing... always let the man take the lead. I know sometimes it can be hard, especially in the world of three-minute ABS and one-minute microwave meals...it's no surprise that we want everything including our relationships to move at lightning speed. But truth be told, sometimes we run into other people's arms because of lack of identity and sense of self. And the problem is we are busy fixing the external-our hair, lashes, face, body, clothes and careers to give us a sense of self-worth..forgetting that it's the internal that matters the most. See, you can't put a band-aid over a huge wound. You can be stylish and driving a BMW and still be miserable and lonely. Why? The answer is simple, we focus on externals to try to fix the internals. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with that, but if you ONLY look for those things to give you a sense of self-worth, you will forever be searching because self worth is not something you can buy from the store...you already have it! And the devil cannot take it away from you. Embrace the fact that you are created in the image of God and have unchanging value. Accept yourself and love yourself...even the Bible in Matt 22:39 says, love yourself as your neighbor. Self love is a must...because when you love yourself, you will no longer be interested in men or women who ignore you, cheat on you, hurt you emotionally... lonely Saturday nights, no more waiting for his text messages or phone calls. Love should be easy! People who have a solid identity in the Lord can't be shaken by dateless droughts or never ending wedding invitations in the mail. Why? Because they are complete and whole in God and they know that if God himself said, " it is not good for man to be alone" ( Gen 2:18) then there is no need to panic because others are getting married. Don't stand on your ever changing feelings but stand firm on the word of God that never changes.
Remember, don't be so consumed in finding someone to meet your needs and give you a sense of significance that real living has taken a back-seat. I know nothing beats that magical experience of being in love and living happily ever after, but please don't life pass you by...
Have a life! When you have a life of your own, you attract others and because you have a life of your own you will be interesting to your partner, having something to offer and not totally depending on your partner to make you happy or meet your emotional needs.
