Love & Dating in today's world!
Let's face it! In today's world finding love or someone to have a great relationship is becoming harder than ever...unless you discover the secrets that can help you attract
the right partner.
So what's the secret anyway? Well, let's talk about a few today and maybe more later. But you can also read more in my upcoming book. Dating with a Purpose!
Secret # 1
Keep thinking, 'Any man would be really lucky to date me.'
Don't entertain questions like, "What's wrong with me? Why doesn't he like me?" This kind of thinking is very self-destructive. Please change your thinking today, right now and own a stronger, healthier perspective about myself. Instead of wondering about a man's current opinion about you. You should instead adopt the mindset that he ...and any other guy - would be lucky to date you. Once you adopt this mindset, you will be happier than ever...but of course you also have to work on yourself, you can't find Mr. Right if you have nothing to offer him.
Secret #2
If the shoe doesn't fit in the store, it won't fit at when you take it home...
I love heels, but I don't buy shoes just because they are on sale or just because they are gorgeous, they have to fit me right. In the same way, finding the right guy is like trying to find that perfect pair of heels. Remember, if they don't fit right at the store, they still fit at home. So why take them home ? Please don't settle for the wrong man. You can't change him. How many women are guilty of thinking they could change something about their husbands? And how many then learned the hard way that no one can change another person. If you just can't accept some trait or habit in your partner, it's time to think about whether this is the right person for you. In the end, you'll be much happier being single than wasting time with the wrong person. Hold out for the one who is right for you.
Secret # 2
Love has nothing to do with your biological clock
You are over 30, starting to feel a little stressed that Mr. Right has not come along, so you settle for second best. Picture this: You are so hungry and when you get to a restaurant you ask your waiter to seat you and the wait responds...do you want smoking, non-smoking or first available? Well, because you are so hungry you respond, "Please give me first available!" Many people are so for love hungry and care less about second
hand smoke. Be a chooser and not a beggar in relationship . Say no to First available Syndrome...
Secret #3
Money? Of course money is important!
It's okay to want a wealthy man...who makes more money than you do, but what's not ok is being a gold digger expecting someone to rescue you...that is not love, it's called using someone for his money and that's not the kind of love you want. So while money is an important factor to consider, if you meet a great guy who has all the traits you want except cash and you turn him down because he hasn't made it yet...you will regret it! Because he could be the best love of your life. And always remember, whenever you lead with money you send the relationship right into business mode.
Secret # 4
Never Date a Married Man!
Do whatever it takes to break up with him. Pray, fast...do whatever it is to set yourself free. Dating a married man is like driving on a dead end street
it usually takes you nowhere. And by the way, separation is the same as married especially if it was his wife's idea to end the marriage...he may still have feelings
for her and they could get back together...Wait for him to get divorced, don't become his
free therapist.
Secret # 5
Don't Play House
I think we should live together, it will be cheaper...really? It's a sign that a won't be a good provider. Living together simply takes you out of the marriage zone. You may think living together is a trail period to see if you are a match. He either loves you or he doesn't and washing his clothes won't change his mind. The best way to see if he really loves you is not to live with him at all. Don't even leave your clothes at his house...you are not homeless or desperate are you?. Let him marry you before you start leaving your stuff at his house.
Secret # 6
Stay Connected with your Friends
The worst thing you can do is to ditch your friends because of a man. Stay connected with your friends you may need them for advise ...and the other reason
you don't ditch your friends is that you will need them if and when you get dumped.
Secret # 7
Here comes the Bride!
No marriage ever succeeded or failed because the knife boy, flower girls never showed up or because your cake was a 20 tier cake. I know it's shocking...Your initials on the napkins cannot guarantee a successful marriage...what is this world coming to? I am a wedding planner and it's crazy to see what makes most brides go crazy...instead of obsessing over a perfect cake, perfect satin shoes and perfect venues find a GOOD marriage counselor.
Secret # 8
Relax, no need to panic
There's something to be said about having a relaxed, carefree attitude when it comes to dating. You go out several times and then don't hear from him/her? Instead of worrying and stressing over why - just assume it wasn't meant to be and move on. Save yourself all of that grief and believe God can bring someone better.
Secret # 9
Anything you chase runs away
Don't be needy. Everything you chase in life runs away. Don't be a man chaser. I can’t begin to tell you how many women have done this and come up empty-handed. This type of aggression rarely, if ever, wins a man’s heart. “Just keep on living,” as my mother used to say. If he is serious about you, he will do what it takes to win your heart. Remember, when a hunter sees what he wants, he will go after it. Keep him hunting.
There you have it! The 9 free dating secrets. But most of all, I hope you realize what a wonderful and amazing woman you are...beautiful just the way God created you. I also hope that you know that you deserve to be happy and the first step is trusting and connecting God ...I am praying for you.
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