Finding a good wife...
Well, duh, you say! To find a wife is easy. Yes, it is, but marriage is not about marrying any kind of woman, it is about a finding your missing rib. So don't date aimlessly. Do it on purpose! Make sure you marry your wife not a girlfriend...there is a big difference. Know what you want before you put yourself out there or before you invest your time in any woman. You may be asking... So how do I find a good wife then? Truth be told, a good wife is worth more than rubies...you need a proper strategy before you end up with a knife instead of a wife.
As you all know, the bible says, he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD...underline the word find. The bible doesn't say he who picks a wife...picking anything is easy, but finding something precious isn't easy. Let's learn something from Abraham's servant. Abraham sent out his servant to find a wife to his son, Isaac. . (You can find the whole story on Genesis 24)
He wasn't going from one club to the other or from one tavern to the other to find Isaac's wife. I think he must have sat down and wrote down all the essential characteristics of a godly wife on a woman worksheet... jotting down things like “I need to find a girl who has kind heart and attitude, quick to serve than to be served, cares not only for her “now’s” but also for her “tomorrows” cares for herself and others, always busy doing something important for her and others... covers herself with humility, decency... respecting and honoring her body and others and a woman who submits to God and God’s assigned leader (her future husband). See, he wasn't looking for “a woman who is strikingly beautiful with big eyes, light in complexion, long hair and curvy. Are you kidding? Abraham’s servant knows that those beautiful eyes and curves won’t prepare dinner or raise kids...he knew that her curves won’t help a thing in the bedroom either unless it is paired with the right character and attitude.
Finding a wife requires wisdom because it takes wisdom to know that beauty can be fleeting and deceiving while character remains. I am sure you also know that a quarrelsome wife can be “like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm” (Proverbs 27:15; 21:9; 19:13; 25:24). So don't just settle because a girl is wearing a swim-suit or a mini-skirt showing her beautiful legs or a bikini showing her bellybutton. Are you kidding? If you are looking for a wife don't be tricked by such stuff...
That is why Abraham's servant didn’t ask God saying “Please lead me to that girl who is beautiful with a body figure all men die for.” Abraham's servant knew that his boss didn’t send him to bring a “one night stand” girl but a WIFE to his only son, the only son of THE PROMISE. Guys, when it comes to marriage don't marry a woman because she is flawless from the outside... find a woman with a NOBLE CHARACTER! And you will thank yourself forever.
Remember, the magic doesn’t lie in the question but in the response. Let's learn something from Abraham's servant...he asked her for a glass of water and she responded back saying, “Sure, here.” The simple question was: “Can you give me a glass of water?” But she didn’t stop there. She continued, “But since I see that you and your camels have been out on the road for a long time, your camels must have been thirsty too. While you sit here and drink, let me bring more buckets of water for them as well. If they drink enough water, you won’t worry about them for a long time.”
BINGO! He found Rebekah! He found the “rare jewel”, a girl with a NOBLE CHARACTER!
Bringing water for these "camels" calls for a character. And second, the man was a senior (old) servant. If he was young like Isaac, any girl would have been willing to go out of her way to win his attention. But Rebekah responded back to this old guy the way she did because that was who she was from the inside.
Listen! If you are single, looking for a spouse, please pay attention to the inside qualities of a person than the outside appearance. Make sure you know that you are a child of THE NEW HOPE, Christ in us...let your marriage be that light that shines in this dark world telling the story of what is yet to come the marriage of Jesus and the Church. Do you know that? Yeah, there is more at stake in the marriage than we can ever think and know.
So chose your wife wisely!!! Or you will regret it.
