22 Marriage Tips
I believe this is the most expensive and priceless gift that any mother can ever give to her daughter. With that said, to every Daughter out there whose mother died before getting married or simply forgot to give her Marriage Tips...I hope these tips I wrote for my daughters Mutale and Shechinah can help you navigate the world of marriage.
1. My daughters, Marry a man who LOVES the Lord and put God first place in your lives, God should always be #1 and your husband is #2! Remember, they can't switch places. God is LOVE and that means you can't be successful at love without obtaining sound wisdom from him, spending daily time in God's word, praying and listening to God. Always have Night and Morning Prayers with your spouse - to give thanks to God and to worship together... Attend church together every week. Daily Scripture Reading - to continue to grow in the gospel, to have the spirit, to be more like the Savior... 2.My daughters, in order to love, you need to be forgiving, you need to extend grace, and both of you must have decided before the marriage that divorce is not an option…love is a choice, an action, a commitment, love always perseveres...Forgive Each Other - let it go, don't go to bed angry, admit you're wrong, don't hold grudges and never use the "Silent Treatment." Marriage is made up of two good Forgivers. because every marriage is made up of two sinners. (Romans 3:23) Better to wake up the next morning on solid ground and HAPPY than with unfinished business:-) 3.My daughters...there is a blessing in Submitting to your husband. Always place yourselves under God’s and your husband’s leadership, wisdom, provision, protection and loving care. Trusting God completely to lead your husband as he leads, even if your husband makes mistakes. Your job is to pray for him to make better decisions because it's your husband who must answer to God for his leadership and decisions, not you. Whew! That’s a relief!:-) So make his difficult job as light and easy as possible ...you don’t want to interfere between God and your husband and what God may be trying to say to your husband as the leader of your family. 4. My daughters, look daily for what there is to appreciate about your husband...Admire him, cheer him on and show gratitude, and he will fall over himself trying to please you. Smile often, speak well of him always... 5. My daughters, love builds up, so always speak with loving intentions, speaking life into your husband. As a wife you are there to support and encourage him, compliment and speak over him with words of affirmation. You should not flatter them with falsehoods, but you can choose your words carefully and wisely in an edifying effort... Soft and Kind Words - gentleness, compassion, kindness, empathy for each other... 6. My daughters, Communicate is everything! Don't expect your spouse to read your mind, learn to communicate at a level that they will clearly understand...Listen - not only to what is said but also to what is meant... 7. My daughters, learn to be in control of yourself and your emotions, do not allow your emotions to control you. When your emotions are in control of you, you are far more likely to do silly things and say harmful things that will damage your relationship. 8. My daughters, always say, "I love you," touch base with hubby to discuss your day, to show you care with your spouse...make sure your husband plans a weekly or monthly Date - to go out to eat, see a movie, attend a concert, go to a park, or anything to just be together...it's always nice to do something fun. This breaks the routine and helps bring some excitement to the relationship...remember, you can't stop dating once you get married. Always look GOOD for your partner. 9. My daughters... Support your spouse. Pay attention to what your partner is dealing with and lend a hand. Support Your Spouse - in school, career and righteous goals. Care About Your Spouse's Family - enjoy their company, get to know them, visit them, overlook their differences 10. My daughters...I know both of you are Fashionistas and love to shop like mummy:-) but please Live On a Budget - communicate about money, stay out of debt, temper your wants, agree on your expenditures... Be content with what you have materially. 11. My daughters, marriage is not always rosy... You will have bad days of course, crying days even, and that’s when you go to your bedroom, kneel on the floor and beg the Lord to carry you through... Then get up and get a fresh perspective and try again. Don’t give up. Love never fails. (1 Cor. 13) 12. My daughters...Give your husband the gift of your Respect. He needs it more than you know. (Ephesians 5:33) every man craves respect. 13. My daughters... Find your worth and security in the Lord, and don’t look to your husband to meet all of your needs. 14. My daughters...there is no such a thing as a PERFECT spouse so... don't expect perfection. It doesn't exist. If it did, it would actually bore you:-) only marry for love and nothing else...it's easier to fight for your marriage if you genuinely love your husband...but if marry a man for other reasons to easy to sit back and watch your marriage fall apart. 15. My daughters...chose your words wisely. Never yell unless the house is on fire...always Speak softly when you argue. Whisper when you fight. Keep it Fair and show some Class. Hurtful words can be forgiven, but they can never be taken back... 16. My daughters, marry the man who loves you as much as he loves his mother. He knows the meaning of respect and the value of a woman...never marry a man who hates his mother. 17. My daughters...On days when you don't like each other, try to remember that you love each other. Pray for the "good days" to come again, and then act as if they have...to love someone is to wish them the best always wish each other nothing but the very best... 18. My daughters...the vows you will take on your wedding day are not suggestions. They are Covenant Vows, before a Holy God, family and friends, to stay with this person the rest of your life, even if you don’t feel like it... 19. My daughters, Guard your marriage as Fiercely as you would guard your own life. Treat your spouse as an extension of your flesh, just as God sees you. Remember, when you get married you become ONE Flesh not two. 20. My daughters, I want you to be happy, I surely do. But I will pray for you to be holy. daughters, Honor the Lord above all things. Colossians 3: 17 God’s primary purpose for you is to bring Great Glory and Honor to Him. When you obey God...even when it doesn’t make sense, even when it is not politically correct, even when you look “really weird” to other people. To experience the supernatural presence, power, joy, peace and indwelling of the Holy Spirit of God! THAT is the key to living an abundant life in your marriage! 21. Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage Bed is to be undefiled...Hebrews 13:4*In today's world it's “normal” for married people to have lots of friends of the opposite sex, to flirt, to communicate by text/email/talk to/face book/Skype/meet with them in private. Please my daughters guard your hearts and our marriages – Let your Generation be a generation of GODLY wives!
22. My daughters, cook good food...if the way to a man's heart is through his stomach...it's because that's how he is wired in his mother's womb and he loved his mother who fed him..he surely can't resist a woman who feeds him. You don't need a million dollar kitchen to cook tasty food...tasty food makes a man happy. Emphasize plenty...it's better to pack leftovers than to look ungenerous. Don't surrender your kitchen to your maid, learn to live with stains and spills...he married you not your maid.
