5 Signs He will Never Commit
I am not writing this article to hurt you, but because I love you and I want you to know the truth. The most common question I hear from my readers and clients is: “Will he marry me?” Or "Does he like me?" and if that's the same question you are asking yourself today...then keep reading because the last thing you want to do is to put your heart on the line and end up wasting months...even years of your life with a man who has no intentions of marrying you or even wanting a long-term relationship with you. And leave you with a broken heart... that's not your portion Hun! So what's a nice girl like you supposed to do to spare herself from such men? Well, here are a signs that he isn’t going to commit to you Now or Ever:
#1. You Nothing Real about him
You can talk to someone for hours and hours every day and not know anything real about them...you don't know where he lives, where he works and what he does. You might know a few details about his life, but you don’t know who they are, their real and true self that exists beneath all the superficial stuff..When a guy is serious about a woman, he shares himself with her... He lets her into his world and shows some level of vulnerability. This is a biggie for most men. Men don't usually open up easily and they don't show their emotions either! They are much more selective when it comes to letting people in...So when a guy opens up to you, when he shares his dreams, his fears, his hopes, his wishes, his motivations, etc., he is investing in you. By investing in you, he is committing himself to you. If a guy doesn’t share his true self with you, if he won’t let you see who he is at his core, the chances are high that he’s not in it to win you and doesn’t see a future...with you. With that said, If you are really unsure as to whether a guy is serious about you or not, take a look at the things you know about him and consider if you know who he really is.
#2. He disappears for days or weeks without a word
If a guy truly cares about you, he will never disappear on you without letting you know what's going on... unless he is in jail and his phone has been taken away from him. But still, he can call you from a public phone. I am sure they have some in jails these days... I mean, even if he has a lot going on and he won’t be available for a few days, he will send a text or message to let you know he’s thinking about you.
Any man who takes vacations from the relationship with no warning... it means he isn’t worried about losing you, and this is never a good sign. If a guy knows for certain that you will always be there waiting in the wings, no matter how badly he behaves, he won’t respect you and he definitely won’t want to commit to you...why should he when he knows he doesn’t have to? There would be absolutely no benefit for him. So his disappearing acts serve more as a way to let you know this relationship isn’t serious and he is still free to do what he wants. It’s his way of letting you know that you aren’t a deciding factor in where he goes and what he does...
#3. He clearly says he doesn't want a relationship
This seems like an obvious one, but unfortunately, it’s not! In fact, I think the most common relationship in this day and age is the non-relationship, that is, when you are dating a guy and you are basically boyfriend/girlfriend aside from the fact that you are not. The ugly truth is this: when a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship, what he’s really saying is he doesn’t want a relationship with you...believe him if he says he doesn't want a relationship and keep it moving. I know you may think you are an exception and your situation is different...no you are not. You are like every other girl in a non-relationship. Treat yourself like a precious jewel and you will never allow anyone to take for a jolly ride as you sit patiently in the back seat, waiting for him to decide you are “good enough.”
So If are dating a guy who tells you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, or he has “commitment issues” or his ex is still bothering him, just take it at face value and do yourself a favor and move on.
#4. He doesn’t take you on real dates
If your dates consist of you going over to his place and watching a movie or you cooking for him, then he isn’t taking you or the relationship very seriously. When a guy is invested in you and cares about you, he wants to go out of his way to impress you and show you he cares. I know most women don’t feel this way, but trust me, when a guy likes you, it’s obvious...you deserve better than that! If you don’t know much about relationships or you are confused about your situation and are trying to figure out exactly what went wrong, then it is time you learn about a Proverbs 3:15 behavior as explained in my upcoming book on Amazon.com: Only Fall in love with how he TREATS you not his cuteness... You can pre-order the book by sending an email to kayrose.aademy@gmail.com Remember, no amount of accommodating niceness from you is going to make a guy fall in love and make you exclusively his. In fact, the more you want him, the less he wants you. And it is not about being a mean either... So what does it take? Buy the book.
Ladies, my prayer for all of you today is simple! Be patient and get yourself a Titus 2 Older Woman...Don't settle because you are afraid that you will never get married. Hope does not disappoint.(Romans 5:5) But truth be told, the Miracle of Marrying the King happens on your knees.
